Stop Complaining?

Stop Complaining?

A few months ago Reverend Will Bowen, a pastor in Kansas City, Missouri, asked his congregation to make a simple pledge to not complain for 21 days, according to MSNBC. Each participant was given a purple bracelet as a reminder of the pledge, and with each complaint, the bracelet is switched to the other wrist and the 21 day count restarts.

The no-complaints movement has quickly become mainstream, and so far over a million no-complaint bracelets – which the church offers free of charge – have been ordered. Requests for the bracelets are coming in from as far away as Australia and South Africa, as well as from American troops in Iraq.

Some participants tried up to seven months to achieve 21 complaint-free days, but even with relapses, all efforts have resulted in millions of stopped complaints. As Rev. Bowen sums it up, “that’s a lot less ear pollution.”

Could you last 21 days with no complaining, criticizing, gossiping or sarcastic remarks? Take the no-complaints pledge, and encourage those around you to do the same.

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I encourage you to take this 21 day challenge. I also encourage you to be aware of your thoughts as you give up the habit of complaining and also suggest that you write a journal or keep a diary of the changes in thought processes that occur as the 21 days unfold.

Please post the results of your challenge on the blog or email them to me if you are willing to share with me. I am interested.


Nothing Last Forever

Nothing lasts forever. Countries and empires become great and vanish into history leaving only an indistinct memory of the actual reality of the empire. Perhaps there is a legacy that is adopted by subsequent peoples in other countries and empires.

The great Roman Empire and that of the Greeks where democracy is said to have been nourished and born are no more. Their legacy lives in this moment in the form of thoughts, beliefs and actions that result from those thoughts and beliefs in this moment.

Everything exists only in the now. For nations, empires and for people. Now is all we have and while we may use lessons learned it is in the now that we experience life.

Friendships are something many may wish to believe are everlasting and unchangeable. I believe even the best of friendships change and evolve. I believe that the best of friendships have cycles.

I say friendships like everything else, do not last forever. They change, grow, evolve and become different with time. Sometimes friends take a different path on their journey and seem not to be friends in the same way they once were friends. Sometimes these friends who for a time took a sperate path come together again as close friends and sometimes they do not.

I believe each person who comes into my life is there for a purpose as am I when I enter another’s life. Sometimes when that purpose is fulfilled the friends part for a time.

It has been my great good fortune to have had some wonderful friends in my life. I have never stopped caring about a friend when I or my friends have needed to move on to what ever is next in our lives.

Friendship is a form of love and for me love, real genuine love is about as close as anything gets to lasting forever. Real love and friendships never die.


A Traveler On The Journey!

The destination you seek is your choice. Live your life with passion.

“In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.” — Robert Heinlein

Without an understanding of what we want from life we get what happens without conscious choice. The unconscious thinking that is the habit and internal life of most people, create destiny as surely as a future created with great conscious thought and effort toward a desired goal.

How common is it to for one of our fellows to bemoan his or her fate at having no pleasure or satisfaction in life? When I hear this I almost always see a person who has lived life without a plan. I see people ignorant of the most basic understanding that men achieve what they think about, take action to achieve, and desire.

Without a goal it is human nature to take the path of least resistance. Without a challenge that has meaning to the individual whether it is family, friends, career or purpose, life becomes a series of meaningless distractions from the tedious, mundane grind of existence.

Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” My own experience with unconscious thought and my observations of other travelers through life confirm to me that without examination and conscious thought life is less than satisfying. Socrates was right.

Think! Consciously think about hopes, desires, passions, dreams and take action. Create a life that has meaning.

Plan! Be aware of things that can be done to create in your life the things you desire.

Desire! Desire passionately striving for the goals you have identified.

Act! Take action in large and small ways to progress towards your goals.

Enjoy! Enjoy living a liberated life of conscious thought and conscious action.

The destination you seek is your choice.
Live your life with passion.

A traveler on the journey.

Dr. Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. “Self Talk and the beautiful efficiency of technology”

Dr. Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D.  Self Talk and the beautiful efficiency of technology

In the early years of my conscious self discovery and self development journey I discovered the usefulness of recording positive, true scripts on audio cassette tapes and listening to them as I went about my day. I used this tool of recording sayings of many kinds from a large variety of sources to help me to develop the kind habits, actions and abilities I desired to possess.

I used this tool for a few years and discovered a book by Dr. Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. titled The Self Talk Solution in which he puts forth the benefits of positive self talk as a way of overcoming and reframing negative internal messages into positive affirming self talk. In this book Dr. Helmstetter also extolled the miracle of technology available to all with a cassette recorder to make personalized tapes to play back periodically to help shift beliefs from limiting beliefs to more true, empowering beliefs.

Before reading his book and examining his other materials I was already using many of the techniques mentioned in his books. His presentation of the how and why self talk can be useful was a cogent and credible theory which I found useful.

I eventually attended a training group at the Self Talk Institute where he presented a version of his work to professionals for use with clients. I have used this method with many coaching and counseling clients alone and in conjunction with other techniques. It is frequently useful as a way of moving forward towards the goals my clients would like to achieve.

Today the easy and inexpensive availability of Compact Disc players, MP3 players, computers and other audio devices make self produced and professionally produced custom audio programs useful to the individual and to the professional working with clients.

I use audio programs in my work with clients today and continue to use audio programs for my own personal growth.

Thoughts require action to produce results

James Allen wrote in his timeless classic, As A Man Thinketh! that;

Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes,
And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes
The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills,
Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills:
He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass:
Environment is but his looking-glass.

I accept this statement as true. I also believe that there is more to achieving success than using the mind to think. Thinking is an important part of the processes of becoming that person we desire to become or having the success we desire.

At some time after first thinking acting is required. Without action all of our thinking remains a dream, a fantasy which partially satisfies a need but which never become real. Without action our thoughts and dreams become empty and meaningless.

Action can begin with the thought dream but only if it has the energy of belief that action is possible and that action is required in order to bring the dream to fruition.

How can thinking promote action? I wish, If only I had a car, money, friends, knowledge, someone to help me, etc. is not enough. A different thought process works better. I accept that action is required and I choose to act. Rather than waiting for my partner to make the bed or saying, please make the bed I can choose an action step of making the bed myself. I can choose the thoughts which occur in my thoughts and the emotions which I feel as a result of this action.

I could feel resentment and anger that my partner was not doing what I wanted and making the bed. Such thinking leads me to a place of resentment and no action. I find that when I am able to make the bed myself, feeling gratitude that the bed is now made the way I want it to be made I am happy. I feel joy.

The joy of productive conscious action is a habit which grows to encompass my entire being. I want the bed to be nice for myself. Then I discover the joy of making the bed and realize I am making the bed nice for my beloved and for my son. My joy expands to include them in my world of joy and service.

The above example is a true event from my life. Now my wife and my son also take joy in making the bed and they smile as we do this each time we wake in the morning. I smile with them and our circle of joy and empowerment expands and grows.

Authentic service to self and others is the action step I take today. I speak my truth as I understand it today. Thought with action works for me and I believe for most people willing to take action


Change Your Self-Talk, Change your Life!