Happiness, what is it and how does it work?

Abraham Lincoln said, “People are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” I agree with Lincoln and think Dan Gilbert has useful and impart on the subject of happiness and contentment.

Dan Gilbert talks about happiness. On TED/WNYC – New York Public Radio

Psychologist Dan Gilbert challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our “psychological immune system” lets us feel real, enduring happiness, he says, even when things don’t go as planned. He calls this kind of happiness “synthetic happiness,” and he says it’s “every bit as real and enduring as the kind of happiness you stumble upon when you get exactly what you were aiming for.”

Conscious Creation of Self – Self-Talk

Conscious Creation of Self – Self-Talk

As James Allen wrote in his book, "As A Man Thinketh" Men are the creators of themselves. It is possible to be the conscious and intentional creator and it is possible to be the unconscious and unaware creator of ourselves.

Conscious creation works better for the vast majority of humanity. Conscious creation allows a choice about what it is we will become and strive to become. Without a destination, a goal and a plan on how to arrive at that destination it is unlikely to be achieved.

James Allen, also in his book, "As A Man Thinketh" says nothing comes from nettles but nettles and nothing from corn but corn. I interpret this to mean that if a person sows corn seed corn is the only plant which will grow from that seed.

If a man sows negative thoughts, thoughts of failure and of scarcity it is failure and scarcity which the individual will harvests from that planing whether of actual seed or of thoughts. It is at least as easy to decide what to harvest and plant that seed, think that thought, plan that plan, take that action as it is to focus on the fallacy of a lack of abundance and opportunity.

Life is what a person makes of it. If a person determines to pursue a life of abundance and opportunity that is the life which will present itself and it will present itself as a direct result of thoughts which are the seeds planted in the garden of the mind. The harvest is a choice determined by the each person.

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Mental Masturbation – Now Do Something

Everyone has wants, needs and desires. Now Do Something!

If you want something in your life do something. Thought without action produces no change. Plans with no action create no change. Wishing with no action produces no change. Observing others with no action produces no change. Study and education with no action produces no change. Affirmations with no action produce no change. Therapy with no action produces no change. Spiritual seeking with no action produces no change.

A number of years ago I worked in Naples Florida with Fred Wass. It was while listening to one of his presentations that I first heard the term Mental Masturbation. The phrase described exactly the helpless and dis-empowered state of thought without action, the constant rumination without end, which produces only disappointment and pain.

Going to conferences, reading another book, going to another self help meeting, listening to the latest and greatest personal development speaker can have value. But without action there is no change. Creating an identity as a seeker of wellness without embracing the steps necessary to live in wellness is futile. At some moment in the journey of gathering knowledge and information action is required to actually live in health and wellness.

Why do people focus on the problem instead of the solution? People are comfortable with their story. Their story becomes their identity and then they cling to the identity, their story, with a ferocious tenacity, even though their lives and that story are desperate unpleasant experiences.

People fear the unknown. It sometimes seems better to live in the wasteland of despair than to risk the unknown which change may bring. This fear of change is common even when it is difficult to imagine worse circumstances in that person’s life. This fear is common even when life seems so desperate that the person is praying to whatever power exists in the universe for relief from the current situation.

How can a person change? A person can change by becoming willing to do something to positively change his or her life and then doing something. Perfection is not desired nor is it possible.

Live in the moment. Now is the only moment anyone ever lives in. It is possible to make plans for the future but each moment of live is lived in “now.”If it is not now it is either a memory or a future neither of which is “now.”

Be conscious of the thoughts that occur in your mind. Observe the automatic thoughts without judgment.

Steve Pavlina has also written an excellent article on the subject of Self-Help Junkies who are always doing research on the solution but who never take action at:

The specific article is here:

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Stop Complaining?

Stop Complaining?

A few months ago Reverend Will Bowen, a pastor in Kansas City, Missouri, asked his congregation to make a simple pledge to not complain for 21 days, according to MSNBC. Each participant was given a purple bracelet as a reminder of the pledge, and with each complaint, the bracelet is switched to the other wrist and the 21 day count restarts.

The no-complaints movement has quickly become mainstream, and so far over a million no-complaint bracelets – which the church offers free of charge – have been ordered. Requests for the bracelets are coming in from as far away as Australia and South Africa, as well as from American troops in Iraq.

Some participants tried up to seven months to achieve 21 complaint-free days, but even with relapses, all efforts have resulted in millions of stopped complaints. As Rev. Bowen sums it up, “that’s a lot less ear pollution.”

Could you last 21 days with no complaining, criticizing, gossiping or sarcastic remarks? Take the no-complaints pledge, and encourage those around you to do the same.

To read the original article go here:

I encourage you to take this 21 day challenge. I also encourage you to be aware of your thoughts as you give up the habit of complaining and also suggest that you write a journal or keep a diary of the changes in thought processes that occur as the 21 days unfold.

Please post the results of your challenge on the blog or email them to me if you are willing to share with me. I am interested.


Nothing Last Forever

Nothing lasts forever. Countries and empires become great and vanish into history leaving only an indistinct memory of the actual reality of the empire. Perhaps there is a legacy that is adopted by subsequent peoples in other countries and empires.

The great Roman Empire and that of the Greeks where democracy is said to have been nourished and born are no more. Their legacy lives in this moment in the form of thoughts, beliefs and actions that result from those thoughts and beliefs in this moment.

Everything exists only in the now. For nations, empires and for people. Now is all we have and while we may use lessons learned it is in the now that we experience life.

Friendships are something many may wish to believe are everlasting and unchangeable. I believe even the best of friendships change and evolve. I believe that the best of friendships have cycles.

I say friendships like everything else, do not last forever. They change, grow, evolve and become different with time. Sometimes friends take a different path on their journey and seem not to be friends in the same way they once were friends. Sometimes these friends who for a time took a sperate path come together again as close friends and sometimes they do not.

I believe each person who comes into my life is there for a purpose as am I when I enter another’s life. Sometimes when that purpose is fulfilled the friends part for a time.

It has been my great good fortune to have had some wonderful friends in my life. I have never stopped caring about a friend when I or my friends have needed to move on to what ever is next in our lives.

Friendship is a form of love and for me love, real genuine love is about as close as anything gets to lasting forever. Real love and friendships never die.


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